Ladies, if you have ever dated or married a mama’s boy, you will find this entry relatable. Every human, no matter the age, still feels like a child to their parents. Once in a while, we feel the need to confide in our parents about our fears, plans and frustrations in life. It is only normal and natural. But we have this breed of men who overly depend on their mothers.
Who is a mama’s boy?
This term describes a man with an unhealthy dependence on his mother when expected to be independent. These are the types who report everything in their relationship to mama such that it becomes uncomfortable for their partners.
I am talking about the type that goes to ask mummy for permission to do the most basic things in a relationship. Every time they have a misunderstanding with their women, the next thing is a phone call to mama, explaining everything while actually adding some lies to make their partner look bad. And before you know it, his whole family knows about your intimate issues. Your every move is taken as a family affair because mama’s boy reports to her and she in turn tells the whole clan.
He makes his partner feel like a second fiddle to his mother. It is not supposed to be the case as the two people have different roles in a man’s life and, therefore, shouldn’t even be compared.
A mama’s boy often still stays with his mother when he is supposed to live on his own to give some freedom to his girlfriend. If he gets married, some insist on staying in his mama’s house on the pretext of ‘looking after his elderly mama’.
The worst comes when mama’s boy compares wife or girlfriend to his mother. I mean, this is just disrespectful. “My mother cooks better than you. She is a better home maker than you” are some of the sentences that come out of the mouth of a mama’s boy.
One can clearly notice a mama’s boy when he turns to his mother first for every major decision. And in case of a conflict or misunderstanding between his woman and mother, no matter what, he takes the side of his mother. Even when his mother is wrong, he will never stand up to her or defend his woman. It can be tasking dating or living with such.
So, how can a woman handle herself in such scenario?
It is very difficult to handle a mama’s boy. Those who have ever dealt with him know. So, I think it is important to soul search if the relationship is worth the trouble. If you decide to stay, you need to be strong because dealing with the boy and his mother can be emotionally draining.
By and by, a lady can try to talk to her man about setting his priorities right while reminding him that he is an adult who cannot live his whole life according to mother dearest’s tastes and rules. A lady can also try to convince mama’s boy to set some boundaries so that there is reduced interference from his mother. But at the end of the day, if you have accepted to be his woman, accept he is a mama’s boy and will always do some irritable things. Learn to live with some of his tendencies and let go of the resentment. n