Before you date that married man

Dear single lady. I come in peace. This is my free unsolicited advice which might help you or irritate you depending on where you stand.

 As someone who has ever been single, lonely and hurt in love, I know better. You see, most married men prey on lonely women. They target hurt, lonely and broken souls that are looking for love.

These married men will say all the right things and make you feel like a princess. This is because they are experienced. After all they have a whole wife and children at home under their care so they know better.

 But what many of us do not think deeply and soberly about are the pains that come with dating a married man. I will attempt to break it down to you.

 Before you date a married man, remember that he is dating you not because he doesn’t love his wife. He is doing it to recapture the lost feelings of romance and passionate sex that has stopped in his marriage due to various reasons including being overwhelmed with managing children, work-related stress, running a home and other life challenges. Basically, a married man will date you as his selfish means to fulfil his unfilled desires and wishes. It is his selfish way of implicating you in his mess.

 Before you date that married man, know that though initially a relationship with a married man seems adventurous and harmless, in the long-run it usually leads to heartache, repentance and ultimately either a failed marriage or a failed relationship. In most cases, it is the relationship with you that comes out as a loser. Marital vows are not a simple matter to be discarded.

 Before you date a married man, know that he will never be available for you as you wish. He has to divide his time between his work, wife, children, hobbies and then you. He will only make time for you when he wants to meet and probably have sex with you.

Before you date a married man, remember that he will hardly introduce you to his friends, and family. Even if you feel so in love with him and he is the love of your life, you will never celebrate him with either your family or friends and if you do, it’s always with some caution. You will never be free.

 Before you date a married man, always remember that you will have to share him with another woman. He will be doing the same things he does with you including intimacy if not even more. If he is betraying the woman he vowed before God and man to love and respect, how special do you think you are?

 Before you date a married man, know that it is unlikely for him to commit to you. You will always come second, third or even fourth. Unless you genuinely have no problems with this, avoid dating a married man.

Before you date a married man, know that hiding a relationship can be exhausting. You have to constantly lie to your friends and family about who you are dating and that is very exhausting.

 Before you date a married man, be ready to pay the price for sleeping with someone’s husband. The world is cruel towards women and once the affair gets out, you as the other woman will pay heavily as compared to the man.

 Before you date a married man, know that while you are busy getting all emotional and deeply in love with someone else’s husband, you could be missing out on an opportunity to meet a man of your own who could later become your husband and the father of your children.

 So, yes, I know many who are already in relationships with married men will be all defensive, but this is for you my dear sister who is not yet into a relationship with a married man that before you take this route, think and be rational about it. You deserve better.