Can you do me a favour?

 My dear ladies, let’s talk. This phrase: “Can you do me a favour?” is scaring men. Many of us are using it to beg. We are begging men for money, lifts, lunches, make-up and hair products. The list is endless and men are exhausted. We need to change.

It is obvious that naturally, we expect men to do certain things for us. These range from helping and spoiling us from time to time.

But it is getting out of control. Men are opening up and admitting to exhaustion. Beautiful women who portray on social media as bosses are going into men’s inboxes asking for almost everything— from airtime to their children’s school fees.

This is degrading and harassment. We are harassing these men with our constant begging. Let men share what they have out of the goodness of their hearts and not because we are constantly begging and making them feel bad if they do not give us money.

A woman runs a home, but once she gets a boyfriend, all her needs are dumped on the man. Are we surprised why these men evade settling down? I think some expect too much too soon from a lover. He is your boyfriend not your donor. You cannot get a boyfriend and ask him for a child’s school fees a week later. That’s a deal breaker.

Once you make it a habit to rely on men, you become vulnerable. How do you stand your ground against abuse when the perpetrator is funding that poshy lifestyle? That is why some women are tolerating emotional and physical abuse.

Through social media, some women have no shame asking for favours from random men. Once a man shows interest, the next text is asking for transport money, airtime, saloon etc. Where is our pride as ladies? I know some of us are struggling. But that does not give us a free pass with a begging bowl to any man. And yes, at some point we meet someone to support us. But this does not mean we should develop a lazy attitude or a lifestyle we cannot afford.

These men ain’t as desperate as we think. After sometime, they get tired and once they do, they meet someone who has her own money. They will leave you for a woman they can also rely on in case of trouble. They are human too and want to be pampered, not always giving, giving and giving. So, dear ladies, can you do me a favour? Stop begging for money from men!