Divorce is a most traumatic emotional experience for everyone involved. It is extremely tragic for the children who feel they no longer belong. They now appear to have neither father nor mother. Generally, the mother strives hard to manage the home alone to no avail. The children feel rejected, their world has been completely disrupted. Sometimes, the children are treated by one or both parents in a manner that confuses them. Some parents even talk about their resentments and disappointments to the children. The parents frequently feel lonely and shocked themselves and everyone concerned has been deprived of a healthy home environment.
It is tragic for the man or woman, who having decided on divorce, feels guilty, inadequate and lonely without his or her marriage partner. It is unhappy too, for the families of the respective husband and wife. There is bitterness and anger for the in-laws, disappointments and frustration for the children.
In some cases, there is simply no chance for a happy marriage. The pair may be too immature. The husband may be determined on a divorce, the wife may be married to an alcoholic, womaniser and one who is unable to support her and the children, in these situations, divorce seems inevitable. Can divorce ever be handled constructively? What are the consequences for the children? What is the prime cause of divorce and can it be avoided?
Divorce can be avoided
Divorce is to be avoided for everybody’s sake or at least, every possible attempt should be made to prevent it. If we understand why divorce comes about in the first place, we can take steps in time to prevent the growing apart and lack of communication which often lead to divorce.
Sympathising more and criticising less are two vital aids to ailing marriage. Patience, understanding and cooperation are other great aids in resolving problems. Noticing nice things about each other is a must. Overlooking seeming faults is absolutely necessary.
