East or West, home is best (1)

Bringing up children is the parent’s direct responsibility. In our African culture, we have believed in letting Grannies aunts and uncles take the responsibility of looking after one’s children. This practice has to phase off, because it negatively affects the child. It might, however, have a positive impact on the child, depending on the type of parents that have been entrusted with the responsibility.

In whatever situation parents find themselves in, they should never think or plan to dispose of their children to other families. This practice disintegrates the family completely. The children, having been reallocated to different homes, have their relationship diluted because they do not grow up as one unit. Children who have been separated for whatever reason have their relationship destroyed.

Even if one tries to bring them together at a later stage in life, damage has already been done and little will be achieved.

The child that has been sent away to another family knows that s/he does not belong to that family and learns to protect himself/herself at a tender age. They are faced with a situation that makes it difficult for the child to seek help from the entrusted parent’s intervention. This makes the child’s life unbearable. Such children do not belong to either of the two families.

As I was ministering to the lives of boys and girls, I have come across a girl who disclosed to me that she was at a certain time being taken care of by her aunt. While there she joined the aunt’s church, where she was taught a very strange doctrine that girls can sleep together as husband and wife (lesbianism).

This was being taught at a girl’s meeting within the church. The girls were doing it. The girl in question had to go through deliverance prayers at Family Clinic because she displayed a very strong spirit of adultery so please, parents, be careful of what you put your children through as they are growing up.