Bottling all your sorrows in your heart never solves anything. It makes things worse. Chancellor College Sociologist, Charles Ntata, shares with PAIDA MPASO, why it is necessary to talk to friends.
Opening up your problems or feelings to a trusted relative or friend is a very healthy thing to do. Not only will you share the burden, it may be solved. Or at least you will get valuable advice on how to solve it.
According to Chancellor College Sociologist Charles Ntata, problem-sharing is related to social interaction and is part of human nature.
“We are human beings, not animals; therefore, we do not have to keep things bottled up within ourselves. We need to talk with other beings because through interaction we gain life,” Ntata says.
He further says by doing so, we are not only helping ourselves to finding solutions we are also helping ourselves by coming out of our shell.
However, people are reluctant to share their problems with their friends for a lot of reasons; among which are untrustworthiness and gossip. Let’s face it; no one wants their personal issues to become the talk of the town.
Ntata thus stresses the need to only share these things with trusted people who can actually help you. He warns that not every person we talk to is able to help. Some might end up disappointing us even more.
“Not every conversation we are going to have will be fruitful. While some people will hurt us and discourage us even more, as human beings we should never give up. We should seek as many views from different people as we can so that we can gain the social interaction part of it and at the same time get assisted,” he advises.
“But never leave things unsorted or your head becomes cloudy and this can be a health hazard,” he adds.
Sometimes when we trust our friends with our secrets we get disappointed. While some people might chose to give up on the quest to finding solution from friends, Ntata advises that the more you press on the more confident and motivated you are in approaching matters.