I like your column and I hope my message gets you in good health amid the coronavirus crisis that has just taken the country by storm.
I am a young man in my early 20’s and I’m stuck in between two women. The problem is that the first lady loves me deeply and I know that but the problem is that we stay in the same house though we are not related anyhow but I don’t feel that it is wise to be playing games in the same house while on the other part the second woman is a young beautiful woman—those that grab attention in family gatherings—but I feel like she doesn’t really love me and she’s mostly after my material possessions.
Now the first lady has just noticed this and despite knowing about the other woman she has decided that we should continue with our secret relationship in the house.
So what should I do Biggy? Should I leave the second woman and continue this secret relationship or should I try something new with this second woman.
FPE, Lilongwe via WhatsApp
Okay, we will put aside the fact that your acronym appears to have been coined from the fresh presidential elections. But then, it appears that you have within you an aurora of childishness. You may seem to not understand that fact, but you carry it wherever you go.
Wait a minute, you say a thing or two about material possessions. Do you have any? It is so clear, very clear, that you are still under the care of someone, and to talk about your material possessions is, to say the least, absurd.
To prove your being childish, you tell us you are playing games with somebody in an equally pathetic situation. Both of you are just being kept, and you think that is love. It just might be the proximity that has got you two together.
Which is why, your mate would have no problem in your having another ‘affair’. She knows you are just a means to her attaining a bit of happiness. As long as you are there, no matter what you do, but if your satisfy her lust, she will not care a hoot if you have someone else or three.
You are not a president that you should be worried about having a first lady or second lady. For that matter, it is misplaced that you should ask me which of these ladies should you continue being in an affair with.
I would rather you concentrate on your life that in future you will find a soulmate. These two are using you. Thank you.
Muthera m’manja mwa akazi inu.
Big Man Wamkulu