Adultery is quite commonplace among modern couples, and with the internet and mobile phones, itâ€™s easier than ever for an unfaithful partner to conceal their whereabouts. While your cheating other half may try to hide his mistress, being unfaithful requires a lot of attention to detail that escapes many men. Those who arenâ€™t careful enough leave plenty of clues or behave oddly to try to cover their actions. The following are some of the many signs that your partner may be cheating.
He starts to lose weight and buy new clothes
If your typically disheveled significant other begins a new vigorous exercise regime and dresses better, he either has a renewed outlook on vanity or heâ€™s being unfaithful. â€œIf a man takes a new interest in wardrobe, hair, nails, skin, he might be trying to attract the attention of a woman (or man),â€ says psychologist Stephanie Buehler. New suits, shoes and cologne are clues that he may be playing away.
â€œIf heâ€™s not interested in sex with you, he may be getting his needs met elsewhere,â€ says psychotherapist Dr. Tina Tessina, author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage. Another indicator that he may be unfaithful is if heâ€™s trying new adventurous moves on you in the bedroom. Perhaps heâ€™s getting extra practice and special tutoring in another womanâ€™s boudoir.
He disappears for long periods of time
Be aware of his changes in habits. Danine Manette, author of Ultimate Betrayal: Recognising, Uncovering and Dealing with Infidelity says, â€œHeâ€™s most likely cheating if he begins leaving earlier for work, staying later, taking longer or going more often.â€ Also pay attention to how much time he spends away from home for extracurricular activities. â€œBe forewarned if outside activities become more frequent and tend to last longer than before,â€ Manette adds. Lastly, be extra suspicious if he is unreachable when he is away from home. â€œIf he says heâ€™s working late, but doesnâ€™t pick up his phone or read his text, thatâ€™s a bad sign,â€ says Dr. Buehler.
Unexplained bills or expenses
Even if your partner is not buying gifts and hotel stays for his new lady friend, you may notice charges for fancy late-night meals. â€œUnidentifiable charges on his credit card are often the clue that catches him,â€ says Dr. Tessina. Study his bills and receipts and make sure all his stories match.
5. You canâ€™t access his computer or his mobile phone
Investigate further if he suddenly changes his passwords, erases his web history, or hides his mobile phone. â€œToday, many people who are having affairs are found out by their mobile phone records, which will typically have numerous calls to the same person,â€ says family therapist Donna Tonrey. â€œAlso, email and internet records often are a give-away as to what is happening.â€ If heâ€™s masking his actions heâ€™ll do his best to change all his log-in details and PIN codes, itâ€™s a suggestion that your beloved is being disloyal.
6. Changes in his attitude towards you
Your once lovable partner now picks fights with you and criticizes the way you look, cook, or dress. He may be looking for ways to get out of the relationship, or, â€œhe may be comparing you to the new girl,â€ maintains Manette. Conversely, itâ€™s also cause for concern if he is abnormally sweet and caring towards you. Those lovely dozen roses every week signal that either he feels guilty about his transgressions, or is thankful you havenâ€™t figured him out yet.
7. Your female instinct
Even with all these telltale indicators, no sign is more revealing than the feeling in your gut. Manette says, â€œYou know your partner better than anyone else and you will be the first to notice changes in behavior, changes in schedule, and changes in the way he interacts with you in general,â€ she explains.
â€œMost women report that in retrospect they saw the signs but either ignored them or explained them away.â€
Instead of disregarding the warnings, open a line of communication with your partner about your feelings.â€”Www.sofemenine.co.uk