Married man won’t marry me, should I leave?

Dear BMW,

I met a handsome, a broke man in his late 30s two years ago. He is married and I am not. We have been dating and he promised me that he will leave his wife to marry me. In fact, he has on more than one occasion moved out of his house to live with me.

Last year, he swore over his mother’s grave that he will marry me this year. But as I write, he is yet to propose, let alone to take me to his parents. His wife has not been served divorce papers and when I ask why, he gets angry and storms out of my house only to show up a week later.

I have tried to pick fights with his wife, so that she leaves him, but often she ignores my calls and texts. Last time she responded was to check if her hubby had eaten supper and taken his BP tablets.

I am working and paying my own bills, including giving him money to support his family. But he still won’t commit.

Biggy, I tired sharing this man and I want to make a move that will change my life. It’s either I marry or leave him for good.

What should I do? Help, please!

Fluffy B, via WhatsApp, Lumbadzi

Dearest Fluffy B,

In the 60-something years, I have been on this earth, I know no level-headed woman who relishes the thought of playing second fiddle to another woman’s man. So, I get it why you are tired.

All MG2’s reading this piece understand the pain that you are going through. Everywoman wants a man of her own. But you see, women sadly share this planet with scumbags. And these crafty scumbags feed you a load of cock and bull about their situations, including making some vague promises of being with you ‘when the time is right’ but in the end, delivers nothing but sex, which often leads to pregnancy.

Men—look who is talking—will tell you anything and everything under the sun just to get into your sexy panties. He will lie through his yellow teeth and tell you exactly what you want to hear to keep you interested in more sex.

If you find yourself head over heels in love with a married man—the way you did—and you have deluded yourself into thinking that it might lead to something, err marriage, well think again. Most men love their wives to boot and they won’t leave her for a side chick.

You my sister, you are nothing but a side dish to him. You will remain so until you retire in many years to come.

A columnist friend in this paper shared a story of an elite married man who lied to his side chick that he was divorced, would give his MG1 K75 000 every month, while the side chick only got K25 000. The side chick would go to twitter bragging and all that her man gives her cash every month, while the wife quietly enjoyed her cash.

To cut this sad and long story short, you already know he is a lying jerk because he is lying to his wife, so do you really believe you are above his lies?

Wake up and smell the coffee. This man loves sex, not you. If I were you I would dump him, change houses and phone numbers. I would run and never look back. But I know your likes, you will hope against hope that he is the prince in shining armour.

So don’t waste my time. I have alliance meetings to attend!

Big Man Wamkulu

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