Often, we hear women making a fuss about birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s Day, Christmas and any day deemed profitable. I say profitable because these are the type some women await to be spoilt and will fuss over them when they get mere well-wishes or greetings. These types ambush unsuspecting men for alms or gifts just so they get recognised or appreciated. Women just love to be spoilt with little regard to who spoils them. Some will accept treats even from strangers, as long as they get something.
Let’s talk about outings. Many women love alms. They except men to foot all their bills and will even invite friends to an outing to ‘milk’ an unsuspecting date. Their choice of beverages changes automatically when a blesser is in the house. The water suddenly changes to a cider, the Kachasu to a Jägermeister, mang’ina to ants on a tree, etc. My point is, women want the best they normally can’t afford through another’s pocket.
There is actually nothing wrong about getting spoilt and feeling loved. It becomes wrong when it turns into a career. And often when the appetite for good things goes haywire, it turns desperate and desperation has landed many in problems.
Has anyone ever realised that men also need spoiling and treats from time to time? Do we ever reflect upon the fact that these are also human who require a helping hand rather than just folding our arms awaiting charity? Does it ever cross our minds to send these treats even without any occasion, just to show our appreciation?
There are sisters out there who appreciate their men and dig into their pockets to offer treats. They will take the time and resources to take men out. They spend, on friends or lovers. That is commendable. Men are only human. They may put up brave faces and pay for those exorbitant bills while they cry and complain on the inside. Some even go into debts jut to please their women. And because by their nature, their egos do not allow them to speak out. They suffer in silence.
Let’s take time to indulge each other without overburdening others. No party should expect more from another without reciprocation. That is how love is built, mutually. And if you can’t afford it, mimimise on the demands too. You can’t have hat car simply because your neighbour has it too, or the kitchen unit or sending your children to a similar school like your colleague. Sources of incomes differ and partners must understand each other. Time is the best determining factor.
Stop the greed women. One good turn deserves another.