Last weekÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s issue of Every Woman discussed the necessity of mikanda (network or waist beads) for women and we asked readers to respond through SMS or e-mail. The following are responses that Every Woman received on the topic:
Beads are necessary in the bedroom because they help the man with foreplay. The husband always stays at home and does not look at other women because of the thought of his wifeÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s waist beads. Beads have similar effects on the man as traditional incisions.
John- via email
I love the idea that this is jewellery that is intimate. Everyone sees my rings and my bracelets, but this adornment is private, or as private as I want to make it. My man loves the idea that there is something he has seen that no other man will ever see on me and he thinks it is hot!
It is very important because it is the thing making two people to be together.
It is a gift to be enjoyed, and not denied, by married people. Extremely important!
It all depends with the partner. Some will like them, some wonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t. So you just have to know your mate.
It depends on somebodyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s culture.Ã‚Â IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m a Yao and I know men in my tribe like Jigida!
It depends on the couple and most importantly the individual wearing. Personally, I find them very feminine and some are really good pieces of jewellery to complement my underwear and improve sexiness and attraction to my partner.
They are also an essential tool for foreplay. There are times when a woman may feel too shy to expose her total nudity in front of her partner, or that she has gained a few extra portions around the waist. Beads offer a very convenient Ã¢â‚¬ËœcoverÃ¢â‚¬â„¢.
I know others wear waist beads for protection, spirituality, communication and rites of passage which should equally be respected.
Waist beads are for sex workers (Mikanda amavala ndi ma hule).
Prince Jere via SMS
A woman who doesnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t wear waist beads is the same as a man. I like my partner to have beads so I can play with the network as part of foreplay.
Unknown via SMS