Mum, daughter in a fix

Dear BMW,

I need your help BMW. My mother has been single for some years now and has recently started dating a new man. You see, my mother had me at a very young age so we don’t differ as much in age as your average parent and child. This also makes us very close because I feel like she is as much my sister as she is my mother.

So, a few days ago she asked me as her daughter to meet this new man in her life to tell her what I think about him. To my dismay, when I met this man I instantly knew him, the reason is—me and this man had a brief intimate relationship a few years ago.

He is my mother’s age, so isn’t too old for me, I am not in love with him but the day we met, the old flames were rekindled in my body because I remember the good times we had. I don’t know if he feels the same but I don’t want to tell my mother about the past because I know she likes him a lot. At the same time I have this fire inside me that wants him again, please help.

Patricia, BT

Patricia, my sister,

BMW understands the turmoil you are going through, caused by your past ‘hot fling’ reappearing in your life when you thought you had managed to let go of the good times.

In fact, even in my married times I have met women I have dated and those that I had a short fling with. I have felt what you are feeling now, so don’t worry BMW understands.

My advice to you Pat, if I may call you that, is that you be honest with your mother about the past you had with this gentleman. You are not guilty of anything, you were with this man before he and your mother met.

Let your mother hear you out, it will be worse if she hears it from the man when you are her daughter whom she cares about.

Be honest with her and tell her about your past with him and how you feel about him, if your mother understands, she will let him go.

Please my sister, if your mother lets go of this man, do not catch him like a fish (on purpose), there are plenty of good fish in the sea, and neither should you catch him like flu (by accident), gear yourself up to resist him. You both need to let him go for the sake of your relationship.

My dear Patricia, be sure not to allow any man come between you and your mother even your sisters or cousins, it is not worth losing your family over a man who can be replaced.

BMW.