I am 18 years old and I have a boyfriend of two years. I love him very much but what I do not like about him is that he is short tempered. Every time I deny him sex, he goes on rampage tearing apart my panties and clothes. He sometimes throws out my stuff in the rain. He treats me as if I am his wife, but I am not married to him and I do not intend to ever marry him.
My problem is that if I dump him, will he not tear me apart?
Caged Woman, via WhatsApp, Lilongwe
You are not only caged, as I can see, physically but also mentally, spiritually, economically and what not. You need some deliverance at any nearest prayer house or maybe prayers at Nsinja can pacify the spirits that bound you so.
Biggie truly believes there is some evil spiritual force binding you to this man. You need to exorcise that condemned and damned demon. It is not just out of the air that I am saying you are bound in all spheres of life. You are tied to this abusive boyfriend of yours, a boy you don’t even dream of marrying. You do not mention it, but I will tell you in black and white, it’s not him that is caging you, it’s his money.
You are trying to run away from yourself by pushing the blame on this abusive man. This mind game you are playing against yourself will take you nowhere. If he tears your panties when you refuse him sex, what happens when you say no to unsafe sex? I have seen better days and can only imagine what he does to you!
You have cast yourself in a dungeon, it will be too late, to get out if you continue to nag and do nothing. In fact, by the time you will come to your senses, you will be pregnant with triplets (because this man is too randy) of a man you have no love for, one you would never marry even if he were the last man on earth.
I will not attempt to even answer your question on whether he will tear you apart or not. I am not a prophet, neither am I a soothsayer nor a weather man. But if I were you, I will run to the nearest police station with torn panties and all the rub. I am sure, there is a charge for people who tear apart women knickers, let alone abuse them.
But I can bet the police will find a crime for him: conduct likely to cause breach of peace, indecent assault, rape, engaging in dangerous sexual activities and even attempted murder.
So my dear, run!
Big Man Wamkulu
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