They say it is every little girlÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s dream to walk down the alter on her wedding day; looking angelic in her white wedding dress while her husband to be watches her in awe as he waits for the ceremony to begin. Sadly, if you get hitched to the wrong man, the wedding might be beautiful but your marriage will be a nightmare. Should you pray for God to reveal the right person? MWERETI KANJO enquires.
God took AdamÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s right rib and from it made Eve. He did that with every man symbolising that for every man, there is a woman that was sorely made for him. But because of circumstances in life, there are chances that you, woman, could find yourself in the wrong relationship.
To avoid this, religious authorities have advised that we pray and ask for GodÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s guidance so that we are led to whom we were made for.
It is not a question of praying for just one day, advises Constance Masamba, a marriage counselor. She says this is the time that the devil takes opportunity and sends you a man with the purpose to cause confusion.
One can only be sure that their prayers have been answered with time. Give yourself time to assess what sort of person they are, how they react and make judgments in different situations. This will tell you whether you are on the right track or not. Pay attention.
“Each one of us was made for someone. The Holy Spirit through prayer will direct us to whom we are meant to be with. However, the moment you start praying, you will note that different men start to show up. You can only identify them if you take some time to know them.
“Look for the qualities that you asked from God. He is a father of answers and will always give you what you asked for. Do not rush into having sex with this person. Get to know them and only sleep with them after you are married. This will save you from a lot of headaches and regrets,” cautions Masamba.
Pastor Carol Chapomba of Chisomo School of prayer says she started praying for her husband as soon as she started working. Even though she was not quick to accept his proposal, she felt the conviction in her heart the he was the one.
“God talks to us in different ways. The problem is that we do not listen. Chances are that you will see the signs in your dreams, feel it within yourself, there will be a conviction of some sort. Other than that what I know is that there will be some noticeable similarities between you and the man.
“As you pray, tell God what you want. He will send the Holy Spirit that will connect you to this man; He never fails those who believe in His name. Trust him and know that you will be happy,” said Chapomba.
Idah Mainala, woman from Blantyre says God loves everyone the same way. He wants nothing but happiness for us all. She says even without prayer, God will eventually lead you to happiness. This is the reason that other people have failed in their first marriages only to find happiness in their second marriages.
While holding a similar view, Febe Chisale says the problem with most of the young women today is that they rush into marriage. There is a time for everything and when the time comes to marry, God will let you know by sending you Mr. Right.
As you pray for Mr. Right, remember; the fact that you prayed for him does not mean your relationship will be smooth sailing. Just because you felt he was the one, it will be wrong not to expect disappointments and conflicts which characterise all normal relationships. Prepare yourself for hard times because no man is perfect.