Reactions to ‘donor fatigue’ revelation

Big Man Wamkulu

Having read your lecture of Nation on Sunday 21 June 2015, I would like to personally commend you on a job well-done. Indeed, our women or female folk are missing the point about gender equality and natural relationships.

In love (natural): maybe men are ready to spoil their lovers more than women, but this should be willingly and not by demand.

Women should realise that baits are used to catch fish in the lake or river and not to get fish from the freezer.

Women are taking love relations or even marriages to be sources of income and assets, which they are not.

Women want men to afford for them what they cannot afford for themselves. And they don’t realise that all men cannot afford what they personally want in life.

In gender equality: we are all humans and we should enjoy equal opportunities, which I totally agree with. But let us look at the flipside.

If I want a female truck driver, I can’t get one. Where are they?

I build a house, paying all expenses. I furnish it and my wife, a bank manager with more income than me is watching. But when we have to divorce, the law says we should share the property equally. Oh please! Let’s be equal from the start.

I may have repeated what you wrote, but remember, I am saying keep educating these folks. Women must learn to be independent and later on interact with the men-folk on the same wavelength. They should not behave in ways that prove they are not worth the value the world would want to award them.

Your friend

Christopher

Christopher,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this page. I agree with you on some points, but I do not share your perspective in its entirety.

For one, I believe gender equality connotes that we respect each other in our respective roles, and not literally swap roles.

Gender equality does not mean that the hunter becomes the hunted. Nor that you have to relegate your role as the family’s provider. If your wife earns more than you, but does not want to help with household responsibilities; then that is not our problem—dude, you married the wrong woman. Deal with it.

Which is why we are advised to be careful when choosing a marriage partner; so that we don’t have to deal with these issues where issues of grappling over roles become evident.

I know you’re probably wondering what right I have in saying that, what with my public history of six divorces. Actually, that gives me all the right to offer this advice—I’ve been there. Done that.

Ignore me at your own peril.

Bigge Bigge

BMW,

I am Paul from Phwezi Technical College and my girl is based in Karonga. The problem with her is that most of the time she calls me, she is always talking about sex things, such as ndili ndi njala, bwera tizagone. Palibe nkhani imene timacheza apart from zimenezi. Nde ndingapange bwanji to avoid such a story?

Paul via email

Paul my dear,

What is wrong with a woman being sensual with her man? The days when the woman was confined to certain stereotypes is long gone. Roles have since been reversed so let your woman be.

I get the feeling that you are a conservative and your girl is a hopeless romantic (best suited for people like me). As such, I think you are mismatched and this little shenanigan is not leading anywhere.

Either you open your eyes to partake the goods that are laid out for you or someone else will. And when that happens, please do not come crying to BMW for help.

I have spoken.

BMW