Single motherhood need not hurt
Rejection from a man can make a woman go into a mood and consequently affect every area of her life. It becomes even harder for a woman when a man rejects her pregnancy. It is difficult to go through nine months of pregnancy as everything about the woman changes, coupled with the pain of delivery. Both pregnancy and rejection are almost too much to bear, which can lead to desperation.
There are some women that have been fortunate enough to choose men that will stick around for the duration and play an active role in their child’s life. Many women though are raising children alone due to run away fathers. For years, women have dealt with the pain of being rejected by men because the fun had to stop and the serious work of parenting was needed.
True Journey understands that there is nothing new under the sun. Yes women are strong forces to be reckoned with when determined to make things right for their families. But underneath the pride is hurt and anger for a man that has no idea that he not only crushed her but most importantly abandoned an innocent soul. The good news is that it is a bend that does not stop life. Stop feeling down and get over it.
A story was told of a young lady who said: “When I told my boyfriend I was pregnant, he said he was not the father!”. He called her a slut and a whore! Such rejection may affect the woman’s attitude towards the unborn baby as a mistake.
Women abandon their children for different reasons. It might be a bid to put their lives together, failure to cope, lack mothering skills (inborn) or a mere search for freedom. They think by walking out of their children’s lives, they will have a better chance in life than if they were with them.
Other mothers just do not care. Once the child is born, they walk away. That is sad because the baby never gets a chance to bond with the mother.
Motherhood is a precious thing. No money can put a price on it. The bond of a mother and child can never be broken, not withstanding that children need both parents.
Should you find yourself as a single parent, the Grace of God will be sufficient for you to instill in your children the same good morals that both parents are meant to do.
Being a single mother can be difficult but rewarding. Raising children alone can be both tough and challenging. Having no one to share the joys and sorrows can be a lonely feeling. Look ahead to the reward that lies ahead. You may be overwhelmed by the loneliness of single motherhood but you can overcome these feelings by focusing on the positive. Dealing with loneliness and overcoming it can be a life-changing event that shows your children that you are courageous. Learn to take care of yourself and manage the feelings that drag you down in life.
Parents may be single by choice or circumstance. Single parents and their children face challenges, but there are also positive aspects. As single mothers you must realise that you are not alone. This understanding will keep you from feeling that something is wrong, help you to rebuild confidence and ultimately make you fulfill in life. Stop blaming yourself for your circumstance. Be optimistic for there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Moreover, building a good support network will also help single mothers deal with the pain of loneliness. Spend time with good friends and families. Make sure you make time with friends and families when you can.
Finally, put your energy into your kids. This is one strategy to block the pain of loneliness. Instead of abandoning these precious gifts, invest your energy in them. They need you and you need them. Throw yourself into being a mommy.
