that….”In 1908, Adolph Spreckels, heir to the Spreckels’ sugar fortune (along with his brother), married a woman 24 years his junior.
Alma was apparently quite a babe. She called her husband Adolph her “Sugar Daddy”. Whatever the origin sugar daddy is synonymous with older man with money, young girl who wants expenses covered and lavish gifts. I can’t help but recoil at the word sugar daddy… dark and obese, stomach hanging over the waist band in a shirt two sizes too small so that you see his exposed belly flap, sweating profusely, smelling like the crooked business that he owns, in denial of his receding hairline, driving his fancy car, pretending to drink expensive whiskey, speaking broken English in a borrowed accent on a phone just for his sugar babes and spending nights out like he doesn’t have wives and children….but times have changed sugar daddies are much younger and suaver these days.
Sugar daddies are often breeding grounds for all kinds of diseases including HIV. They often bribe their multiple babes to have unprotected sex and often these young babes are not in a position to say no. After sometime, these babes will have relationship with guys their own age or eventually move on from their sugar daddy and find their own mate…a husband…who is the next crop of sugar daddy…and the cycle continues…
A study of seven African nations revealed that 46.3 percent of HIV-infected adolescent girls and young women didn’t even know that they are HIV-positive and could be unintentionally spreading the disease.
It’s a big business…you can even find sugar daddy dating sites and apps for blessers and blessees – a misnomer if I ever heard of one.
Is there anything that can be done about it? Governments have tried behaviour change campaigns like in South Africa’s Say No to Sugar Daddies campaign but for some girls the situation is an economic one…in some instances girls are driven by poverty in others they simply want to floss on Instagram. But why must the focus be on the girl…isn’t it high time that men reconfigure their masculinity and question the sugar daddy identity!