Dear BMW
I am an independent beautiful, career-driven, intellectual woman who has chosen to become a co-wife. I met Gibo five years ago through a mutual friend. We hit it off immediately.
He was everything I ever wanted in a man. I was shocked when he told me he was married. I broke up with him, but none of the men I dated after could measure up to him.
So, after a year or so, I got back together with him and we started seeing each other every day secretly. The affair went on for a while and we got so used to each other that he ended up knocking me up.
To assure me of his love, he decided to go public about the relationship. He told his friends and family and would introduce me as his second wife. His wife—who has been hearing rumours about me, eventually accepted the reality that there are two diva’s in the family—albeit reluctantly. (I now regularly send her marriage disturbance allowance through our man to keep her happy. She is unemployed!)
To be honest, I am very happy as a second wife. Winayo is a useless woman. But while Gibo is always there for me and my daughter, I still feel I want all of him for myself. What should I do?
Zovutatu!
Namatseu, Area 10 Proper, Lilongwe
Dearest Namatseu,
Oh come on! Being a second wife doesn’t in any way mean you are second best. Becoming wife number two has its perks such as spending most of the time with hubby on his many travels and holidays.
Apparently, the fact that the object of your desire is already married proves that he is not a demanding phobe, who wants his meals warmed at night or have his breakfast ready every morning.
Every woman who is tired of dealing with players who are only interested in playing the field; a man who is married is highly appealing because of this tag that they are not demanding phobes.
But as you can see, it has ended in tears, as cheating men have a demonstrated capacity to provide endless fun in the bedroom when given a chance. Perhaps that’s why he knocked you up.
Now you are raising his child in the hope that one day, you will have him all to yourself.
May be explain to me why would a beautiful, career-driven, intellectual woman choose to become a co-wife? Are you that pressed for a man or someones man for that matter?
Why can’t you spend your marriage disturbance allowance on yourself instead of wasting it on a poor unemployed woman who is holding to his cheating husband?
If I were you, I would take my daughter and build a new life away from this married man who as I write is perhaps cheating with someone else.
But I am not you. Musovenge.
Zovutatu!
Big Man Wamkulu
