Just yesterday, I tumbled across a very interesting read. Some American I have admired so much for his personal finance management skills, Trent, was telling a story of how he discovered the path to financial security. What I found very interesting was how he linked his parent’s financial management behaviour to his indebtedness in his own early career years.
Like many of us Malawians, this man was born into poverty. Both of his parents were used to the concept of living from payday to payday, never having enough saved for them to survive more than a week or two. To be fair, this was mostly out of necessity; there was often not enough money to put food on the table.
One important mistake that his parents would make is that whenever they got a lot of money at once like a bonus, they would celebrate by buying things that they didn’t need or showering their children with gifts like TV sets in each of the children’s rooms, top of the range bicycles, etc.
As a child, Trent believed that this was a normal situation. He believed that when one had money, they were supposed to spend it on something that brought them happiness immediately. Money was the key to happiness, he thought, because one could get stuff they wanted. He didn’t understand that saving money might not buy you that immediate burst of joy, but it could provide a steady level of peace in the security that it could provide for you.
Another problem with the level of poverty in Trent’s family was that he never really had an opportunity to manage any money of his own until rather late in his teen years. He didn’t receive any sort of allowance. Any gift money he received was turned over to his parents who would then dispose of it as they wished.
On the rare occasion that Trent did have any money, it was usually slipped to him by his grandmother or a wealthy aunt that he had, who would whisper in his ear not to tell his mother and to spend it quickly on some fun.
The intention was good: they wanted to bring joy to the life of an impoverished boy. The problem was that it didn’t teach him any sort of financial skill whatsoever. He would go to the store as soon as possible and buy a video game or something frivolous which brought immediate joy, but afterward he would go back to having no budget.
I wish to pop this question at you: Do you ever give your children/wards money to manage on their own? If you do, take time to observe their spending quality and check if they save any coin at all? Teach them good spending habits and saving culture while they are still young as the Biblical King Solomon would advise.
To summarise, the lessons Trent got from his parents did not teach him how to save or manage finances by himself. When he went to college, he got so indebted with student loans and when he graduated and got a job, he was getting so excited with his salary going on a spending spree from one month to the next accumulating more debts in the process.
Reversing these mistakes did cost him many years of frugality and saving. If his parents had taught him these tricks early enough, he probably could have been more careful in spending and managing his finances.
Now listen, Trent believed, from his parents’ behaviour, that money was the method to buying instant happiness. In the process, he missed out on any opportunity to learn about personal budgeting or finance simply because there was no opportunity for it. But the fact that you are reading this article, your children have the opportunity to be trained into financial success.
Do you know that children are so observant and learn a lot from you as parents because they consider you role models? Take time to teach your children benefits of saving and the significance of distinguishing between needs and wantsâ€â€of course without denying them the fun that they deserve from time to time!
