You are a girlfriend not a wife

Hear this, just because you cook for him every time you visit doesn’t mean you love him. It does not make him love you either. After all, anybody can cook; even he can cook more than you. Also, the fact that you adapt to this principle and refuse to cook for him will not necessarily make him love you or marry you. So what’s the big deal? I know women would do anything for a man to show they love him, but dear, don’t take the responsibilities of a wife when you are not.

Let me not be too religious, but even if you must do it, it should be once in a while, not every visit.

A lion doesn’t eat dead meat and that’s how men are. They are always looking for fresh meat so if you give him all you possess now that he has not married you, what will be left for marriage? So, please, reserve some of your talents; your love, care, cooking and talents for marriage. Then you can give him to the fullest.

Don’t play wife role for a man. He may not complain because he’s enjoying it, but most of them don’t like it. Do you know why men cheat on their sugar mummies? It’s because the sugar mummy does everything for them free of charge; free money, house, food, car, sex etc. Often times, she monitors him to know whom he hangs out with. This makes him feel like a little boy who is being controlled by his mother. He may end up taking the things she gave him to a girl he loves and values.

Men are men even without money. They know their responsibilities, stop helping them. Don’t you want this man to marry one day? What makes a man want to get married? Is it not to get help be it in washing, cooking and keeping the house in order since he may not be able to do all these after a stressful day? And above all, is it not to have a satisfied sex life? If he’s satisfied with these as a bachelor, then marriage would be a waste of time and money. No value. I wish you well.